CONFRONTING A CHILD MOLESTER
HOW TO CONFRONT SOMEONE WHO YOU SUSPECT HAS MOLESTED YOUR CHILD
Were I to find out my child was sexually assaulted by ANYONE – including members of my own family – my first instinct would be to smash their head against the wall a few times and then make sure they feel the shards of glass as they fly through the plate glass window. That would be for a minor transgression!
There are few crimes I find more deplorable than child molestation: torture and murder head the short list. But like all responsible adults, PREPARING (even mentally) for an emergency will oftentimes bring cooler heads to the forefront to provide the necessary actions required. Like fire drills where we were taught to proceed calmly to the nearest exit, you should at least consider what I’m about to tell you regarding confronting someone who MAY have molested your child. (Note: Remember not everyone who is accused is guilty. A teacher’s assistant in Florida was assaulted by a father because his high school daughter claimed he groped her. Come to find out, school surveillance cameras proved she was lying. )
So with that being said:
First – please notify the police. Even if you plan on going to the person’s house and breaking every bone in their body — call the police and let them know what’s going on. You need the police to collect evidence. Evidence is what puts the child molester in prison. I know, I know — in the heat of the moment, you may be thinking prison is too good for this bastard. And I couldn’t necessarily disagree. BUT, that’s why we need to mentally practice beforehand. You will need evidence. At least for your own trial, to PROVE the person WAS molesting your child before you had a moment of temporary insanity!
The child molester might have pictures, letters, emails — all sorts of incriminating evidence, not only pertaining to your child, but perhaps others, and this needs to be collected by the police. If you tip your hand and allow them to know they’ve been discovered, you can bet their first priority will be to destroy any and all evidence. These guys are connected through internet predator groups and advise each other on ways of dodging prosecution. They’re ready at a moment’s notice to destroy incriminating evidence – Don’t give them the moment!
Also, hopefully the police will get there before you do and prevent you from doing anything that will land you in prison and further harm the healthy development of your child. Your child needs you at this time. Their world has just been turned upside down. Their sense of trusting others, of trusting themselves, of their own judgement– everything is swirling in an maelstrom of chaos and confusion. Try try try to control yourself so you can get them through this. Destroying the molester might very well make you feel empowered temporarily, but you need to be the rock, the moral compass on which your child charts their course toward adulthood. You are their example of normality. You are their security. And none of that can be accomplished while you’re cell’ing it with Grand Theft Bubba at the State Pen for 5 to 7.
One last recommendation for those who choose to disregard everything I’ve just advised: I’m told your elbow is the strongest impact point on your body. I didn’t say that.